March 5, 2011

On the date above Forrest and I celebrated 6 wonderful years of marriage. We had an amazing time going out to dinner and doing some shopping. We don't do date nights, so having a night all to ourselves for a few hours was GREAT! This was the first anniversary that we have done something just by ourselves and not with both of our families. We tried a new sushi place(thanks Tifani & Joe Paul) called Fuji Sushi and it was the best place we have ever been to! Unfortunately I didn't get any pics of us in the resturant because we were 2 of the only people in there and we were right by the bar and the chefs were staring at us the whole time. I did get a pic of us before we left, my mom watched the kids at our house so she was able to take a pic of us. I'm also adding a pic of us when we celebrated our 4 year anniversary so everyone can see how much someone can change in 2 years. Apparently I didn't blog or take a pic of us on our 5 year anniversary so I can't compare that one...oh well here are the pics!


Here we are before we left

Here we are at dinner on our 4 year anniversary @ Yamatos!

Thanks for reading! I'll blog again soon........

Friendship

PLEASE READ WITH CAUTION!! I'm sure if you read my blog you have seen my post of TRUE friendship. I have been struggling with this for a while now but I have to be cautious about how I say things here because I know some of my friends read by blog and I don't want them to take it the wrong way. I have always wanted a really strong close friendship with my friends and in the past I have had those things but it's seemed to fade away with time. Once I have a strong close friendship with someone it seems as though something happens and for some reason they drift away and find "new" sometimes even a stronger closer friendship than we had and it hurts so bad because I feel as though I've done something wrong. I am still friends with the ones that I've had those strong close friendships with but it hurts when I know how they use to count on me so much for anything they needed and now I see or know they have someone else they turn to. I feel as though I am the worst friend ever. Yes I do have "friends" but I just wish our friendships could be where they use to be. I know things change but I know people who have had strong close friendships for over 30 years so I think if you have an awesome friendship with someone you shouldn't let it fade or drift away. I feel like I am always the one who is trying to "save" the friendship and apparently I always come up short. I wish there were scenarios I could put on here that would help open eyes and someone could give me advice but it's too personal. Maybe one day I will be the friend that someone is looking for. Until then I will be waiting for advice on how to get over this struggle. It's really been about 2 years that I have struggled with this and it hasn't been 1 friendship that I feel as though I've lost but a couple or maybe even a few. I will admit though there is one that has hurt me alot. Anywho, if anyone has any advice for me leave me a comment! I would appreciate any of it good or bad. :) Thanks for listening (if you do)!

What is a TRUE Friend?

I'll elaborate on this more later when I have time but I am really struggling with friendship lately and I just needed to post this if not for anyone but myself.......


What is a true friend? A true friend is someone you can count on to laugh with you, cry with you and be there for you through good times and bad. Unfortunately, people do not come with a true friend label; you need to be able to spot the characteristics of a good friend.
Throughout your life, you will encounter many, many people. Some of them will become good buddies and some will become true friends. The difference between a good friend and good buddy is that the friend will be with you for life. Buddies come and go with school, work and neighborhoods, but a true friendship can survive being separated by continents.
It is very disappointing when someone you thought was a friend lets you down. It can be very hurtful when you lose a friendship. You may be sad, lonely and even angry with the "friend" who let you down.
While there is no guarantee that a friendship will last, you can look for several characteristics in a person. If they have the following traits, they are more likely to become your lifelong friend. Luckily, you will be able to tell if a person has these characteristics right away; they are core values that will be apparent in everything a person does.
Characteristics of a True Friend
Honest and trustworthy: Can they keep a secret? A good friend doesn-t gossip about you. Do they tell they truth? If they lie to you or about you, they are not a true friend. At the same time, however, a true friend will always look out for you. If you ask a friend to keep something that's harmful a secret, like drug use or stealing, they may tell somebody in an attempt to get you help. That's not betrayal, that's caring.
Good Listener: Do they listen to you or do they only talk about themselves? If you tell them that you don't eat candy, do they remember that?
Loyal: Do they stick with you even when you are grumpy? Are they still your friend when your sick or out of money? If someone is gossiping about you, will your friend step in and put a stop to it?
Available: Are they available when you need them? If you need to talk instead of going to the movies, are they willing to sit and talk with you? Will they help you finish your chores so you can go swimming?
Supportive: A true friend will never make you do something that goes against your moral or religious beliefs. They will not ask you to lie, steal or cheat, or to do drugs or alcohol.
If your friend has these characteristics, you know you have found someone who is a true friend. Be a good friend to this person, and you'll benefit from this friendship for many years to come.